Calendar Girl Blog: Bralessness
An acquaintance of mine was expressing surprise that her tendency to be braless was a defining feature, used by a male friend to describe her to another male.
I too expressed surprise. Not because of the guys behaviour but rather because the woman was bewildered by her male friends behaviour.
How could any woman honestly be surprised by a males overt reaction or attention to being braless? What world does she live in?
Men notice breasts. Some more overtly, rudely, boisterously than others. They always have. And if history has anything to prove, they always will.
So let's give up the shock and surprise game. It serves no one. Instead, we could work on 'how men express their reaction to breasts'. Perhaps make the experience more positive. For the woman.
Calendar Girl doesn't wear a bra. And she couldn't care less who notices. But she does care if the noticing is rude.
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I too expressed surprise. Not because of the guys behaviour but rather because the woman was bewildered by her male friends behaviour.
How could any woman honestly be surprised by a males overt reaction or attention to being braless? What world does she live in?
Men notice breasts. Some more overtly, rudely, boisterously than others. They always have. And if history has anything to prove, they always will.
So let's give up the shock and surprise game. It serves no one. Instead, we could work on 'how men express their reaction to breasts'. Perhaps make the experience more positive. For the woman.
Calendar Girl doesn't wear a bra. And she couldn't care less who notices. But she does care if the noticing is rude.
Calendar Girl
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My Menopause Blog
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posted by Sue Richards at 1:25 PM
3 Comments:
We agree completely. There is nothing inherently wrong in being noticed. Rudeness applies to the way people regard our noses, ears, or legs just as much as our breasts.
Nor, as we have stated elsewhere, is there anything inherently wrong in men noticing or taking pleasure in a woman's breasts. It would be naive to think that that is the only part of a woman's anatomy that men notice or like!
We have never made any secret of the fact that we support a woman's choice to wear a bra or not, seeing absolutely no medical, biological or social necessity to do so.
Nor have we ever been shy about the fact that we run a Forum for discussion of 'bralessness', although intuitively we prefer the term 'breast freeedom'. We have set this in the context of general discussions about empowerment, body image and self confidence.
Recently we were very proud of the fact that a University of Alberta Women's Studies student used bras and breast freedom as her topic for an assignment after visiting our website. She was graded A+ - Congratulations Becky!
Finally women's choice as to bras has gained academic recognition!
Liberty and Michael
Working on how men express their (our) reaction to breasts seems like a worthy goal. I'm sure it would make the experience not only more positive for the woman, but also for the man.
It is actually nice to see a woman bra free. However we get so caught up in what we regard as 'normal' and all our reactions to breasts that we just can't express our reaction in any sort of nice way.
BTW: when you say "I could care less" do you mean the same as when I say "I couldn't care less". It sounds like you do.
Chris
Me and my half baked, mixed up sayings...yes Chris, I couldn't care less....but it hasn't always been this way. I've evolved over time.
No flies on me....have I got that one right?!
Calendar Girl
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